Difficult position

Sometime it is difficult to offer help to another person.

If you offer your help to them, then they say you are looking down on them, accusing you that you think they cannot achieve it without your help.

If you do not offer your help, then they say you are selfish and arrogant.

Sometime when we offer our help , we do not expect any return. The only think we asked is not to blame us or accused us anything when the plan failed or if it didn't work out as expected.

Tolong susah, tak tolong pun susah! Manyak susah!! *sigh*
*pat Mami on her back*